"Comparison steals joy," the saying goes.
Teddy Roosevelt
You are aware that it is improper to compare yourself to others. But it's frequently simpler stated than done.
We can compare ourselves to others in an infinite number of areas, including job title, salary, grades, home, and Facebook likes. The number of persons we can use as a benchmark is also small.
Comparison typically leads to misery more quickly. It will only lead to despair. It only serves to keep your attention on the aspects of yourself and your life that you dislike.
Here are some quick tips to quit evaluating yourself against others:
how to stop comparing yourself to others
Water your own grass.
We waste time that we could be spending on ourselves while we are focused on others. We tend to our own gardens, not our neighbors', in order to grow green grass. Therefore, invest in developing and maintaining your own route rather than wasting time comparing it to others.
Recognize where you are.
Something that you refuse to admit cannot be changed. Come to peace with where you are instead of fighting it or resisting it. Say "yes" to everything in your life and then use that as a foundation to guide your decisions.
Be appreciative of what you have.
Be grateful for what you have because you'll eventually have more, advised Oprah. You will never have enough if you focus on what you don't have.
Remind yourself of your blessings whenever you catch yourself envious of what others have. That means being grateful for my family, my beautiful friends, and the fact that I live in a peaceful nation. Change your attention from what you lack to what you do have.
Compare yourself with you.
Compare yourself to yourself if you must, not to someone else. What can you do to enhance the quality of your life? How can you become a more loving and kind person? How can you treat yourself better today than you did yesterday? The only person to whom you can compare yourself is you.
Decide to practice thankfulness.
When we are grateful for what we have, negative emotions are practically impossible to feel. Consider keeping a gratitude notebook to stop comparing yourself to other people. Spend a few minutes (ideally in the morning) listing all the things you have to be grateful for. Making a gratitude jar is another enjoyable activity that the whole family can take part in. Find a jar, decorate it, and write down at least three things each day for which you are thankful. Put a slip of paper with each one's description into the jar. You'll soon have plenty of causes to be thankful for. Read a handful of the notes from the jar to yourself when you notice yourself drifting into those negative thoughts about yourself.
Be your own closest pal.
We frequently treat other people better than we do ourselves. Analyze your self-talk first. When you evaluate yourself in relation to others, are you critical of yourself? Stopping your self-criticism is the first step in becoming your best friend. Stop and consider whether you would say these things to a loved one. Then begin recognizing and valuing your own special talents and qualities.
Always keep in mind that there will be someone more desirable, intelligent, or accomplished. Knowing the special worth of what you offer to the table is the secret. Every time you concentrate on what other people have that you lack, you cede control. Comparison is the thief of joy, as Theodore Roosevelt once observed. So reclaim your authority. Decide to focus your attention on building the life you deserve and on believing in yourself.
Cherish your past.
Your life may have been complicated and difficult. It may have been tainted by errors, worry, and dread. Mine has, I'm sure. However, each of those experiences served as a catalyst for you to develop into a stronger, wiser and more brave version of yourself. Accept your story and the extent to which it has helped you to grow. Be happy with what you accomplished and with your desire to improve your life.
Choose not to let fear influence your decisions.
Either love or fear underlies the decisions we make. For instance, I relocated to Paris for a position that truly excited me. That had love at its core. Because I was worried about what might happen if I left, I eventually stayed a little too long. It was motivated by dread.
All of my fear-based decisions have been the result of insecurity and a sense of shortage. Never once have they led me in the direction I desired.
Make sure that your decisions are based on love. What would love to do right now? is a powerful question to keep you on course.
Recognize your imperfections.
Someone who is wealthier, more intelligent, and more gorgeous than you will always exist. Nobody is flawless. The answer is not to strive for perfection. Therefore, embrace your defects, eccentricities, and imperfections without self-criticism. Accept your flawless imperfection and you'll be liberated.
Make yourself an ally.
That harsh voice in your head is capable of telling you all kinds of lies. My has informed me that, in comparison to others, I'm dull, stupid, and ugly (and a bunch of other awful things).
Choose to be on your side whenever the critical voice of comparison surfaces rather than joining in. Self-relief, self-soothing, self-comforting. Regularly encourage yourself, and never say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to a friend.
Make comparisons that inspire.
We frequently contrast our backstage work with someone else's big moment. We frequently overlook the countless hours they invested in planning and achieving their accomplishment in favor of concentrating on their achievements. Allow others' successes to inspire you rather than allowing them to make you feel bad about yourself. They can serve as an example of what you can be, do, and have in life.
The phrase "Money doesn't buy happiness" should be repeated as often as necessary.
It is commonly known that having more money does not necessarily lead to more happiness or well-being beyond having the necessities of life. A manager at the upscale resort where I used to perform flamenco dance once told me that she had never seen so many sad individuals in her life. The resort was visited by celebrities and the super-rich. While money and other possessions can improve happiness momentarily, it is typically more disheartening when they cannot sustain happiness over the long term.
Learn to compete against yourself rather than with other people.
Focus on your own objectives rather than how you compare to others. In comparison to where you were at this time last year, where are you now? the previous five years?
I keep a journal for a variety of reasons, including the great things it does for my sanity. It helps me understand and put God's blessings in perspective. Additionally, it's a lot of fun to look back and flip through earlier notebooks to see how much I've changed.
You have developed, grown, achieved, and produced throughout the past year. Consider how much of that you've accomplished during your life. Examine your old journals if you maintained them like I did. There is no better day than today to begin journaling if you haven't already.
Set time limits for yourself when using social media.
As we've been discussing, social media comparison can have a significant negative impact on our mental health. You can protect yourself by setting up the following boundaries:
• Stop following any accounts that make you feel self-conscious.
• Start a timer, and give yourself 30 minutes to scroll. My friend, stop using social media when the time is up.
• Put your phone away while eating dinner with your loved ones and friends. Everyone will be happier when you are truly there with them!
• You don't have to respond to every comment or message; nobody has time for that.
• Consider your motivations before checking social media. Do you feel uncomfortable, bored, or need approval? What can you do instead to feel better?
